How Can I Tell My Friends or Family:
Telling someone the first time is the hardest. Once you do it, once you let the big secret out, you find a wealth of support. Some people are fascinated & work hard to help you find information to overcome vag. Others are put off; they do not know how to handle the information. However, you are free from holding in the secret that eats away at you. Personally, I started telling everyone because I realized that this was a disorder that was not contagious. It wasn't like I caught it or could give it to someone. Realizing it was an involuntary muscle reaction & that many other people were suffering through it or similar symptoms was such a relief. The more people I told the more empowered I was that I was perfectly normal with a condition that could be treated.
The dialogue was simple enough to start. I started telling friends & relatives different things. Like: "I just started going to the physical therapist because my pelvic floor muscles have been spasming. I have been having difficulty having intimate relations like penetration. They think it is a condition called vaginismus." With others I was more blunt, depends on the intimacy established between friends on how candid you can really be. With some I just started an open conversation like, "did you know that the pelvic floor muscle can spasm preventing women from having intercourse or even having a doctor's exam?" Then proceeded to tell them more about it. Finally revealing I knew so much about it because I knew the information first hand and it was happening to me.
For extremely shy people or people I was unsure what to say, I would say things like, "I have been researching conditions that affect the health of women. Like pelvic floor muscle spasms that keep women from not even being able to have penetration, even have a doctor examine them internally." That way I told them the condition & what the problem was without the word usage of intercourse or vagina. Moreover, I evaded mentioning it had anything to do with intimate relationships. (This is a great method to tell Grandma's.) I realize that in proofreading this, I apparently was not shy in telling just about everyone. So for the extreme hesitant, maybe you can just say something more vague. However, I really recommend being blunt. It certainly answers those "Why aren't you pregnant yet?" questions accurately & quickly. Try it, your friends & relatives understand more then you think. You'll be surprised how many open up & tell you their personal difficulties with sex, intercourse, & female problems. If you have suggestions for me to add to my site, I would love the feedback. Especially on how you might have told family members & friends about vag. Please check out the other areas of the site to see what all you can learn. 
