Finding Counselors or Psychotherapists:
Finding the right counselor takes time & effort. Whether they are a social worker, a peer counselor, a psychotherapist, a sex therapist, or a psychiatrist doesn't limit them to being able to be a proficient ear for vaginismus sufferers. Though at times, it can be beneficial for them to have experience in handling sexual difficulties, it does not limit them to helping you find a path to healing. More often than not, the problems that surround a vaginismus patient may directly have nothing to do with sex. More likely, other stressors like financial woes, frustration because of desire to have a child, marital difficulties from lack of communication skills, or other emotional issues on being able to talk about intimacy due to past traumatic situations or abuse indirectly contribute to the vag. Suggesting you see a therapist is not because I think it is all in your head but rather that the stresses of life & situations in life are causing involuntary physiological muscle spasms that are very real. I do need everyone to realize though I strongly encourage emotional support, the physiological responses of the muscles spasms cannot be cured by a simple bit of talk therapy. The condition of the spasms needs to be addressed both physiologically & psychologically. The best way I can stress why therapists help us overcome vag is that the therapists help us deal with the frustrations of having vag. One cannot have a physical condition without thinking it influences our emotional well-being. Vaginismus sufferers carry a huge burden, not only that of secrecy but fear of losing spouses over the lack of intercourse or not being able to become pregnant due to inability to have penetration, and the lack of physical pleasure we miss out on by not being able to engage in sexual interaction that include penetration. There is much more to be said about seeking out a therapist to help with the emotional ramifications of having vaginismus. In time I will add more information on this. You'll have to be patient with me as at this time, this whole website is being uploaded for additional content. Please forward requests for types of information to my email. Click here to return to the homepage of the Sexuality Tutor.
